Why Divorce Wakes Men Up—And How to Fix Your Marriage Before It’s Too Late
Ever notice what happens after a guy gets divorced?
BAM—suddenly, he’s living the life he always wanted.
Travel. Adventure. Building businesses. Writing. Living freely.
I know, because I did the same thing.
I wrote a screenplay. Worked overseas. Explored the world.
I felt alive for the first time in years.
But let’s be honest—I was codependent as hell before all of that.
And my codependency? It helped end my first marriage.
The Cycle: From Codependent to Free… and Then Right Back Again
Years later, I married the love of my life.
It was incredible. Different. Exciting.
The chemistry was wild.
But then the honeymoon phase ended.
And one night, during an argument, my wife looked at me and said:
👉 “You know you’re codependent, right?”
Damn it. She nailed it.
I wanted to flip a table.
Because she was right.
I was doing the same thing again—turning my wife into my emotional center.
Trying to figure out what she wanted me to do instead of leading myself.
That was 15 years ago.
We’re still married today. And not just married—we’re thriving. Our life is better than ever.
How I Broke Free From Codependency (And How You Can Too)
So, what changed?
I stopped making her my God.
That’s it.
I stopped trying to earn her love through fixing, pleasing, and overthinking.
I stopped molding myself into what I thought she wanted.
I started pursuing my own purpose, my own physical and spiritual health, my own mission.
And you know what happened?
She trusted me more.
She felt safer around me.
She relaxed into her femininity—because she no longer had to carry the emotional weight of my neediness.
The “Nice Guy” Trap That Will Ruin Your Marriage
If you’re making your wife your emotional center, you’re trapped.
You’re addicted to her approval.
You end up in two- or three-hour fights, trying to prove you’re “good enough.”
She tells you you’re the problem—and that she’d love you properly if only you fixed yourself.
That’s the lie.
The truth? You don’t need to fix yourself. You need to lead yourself.
How I Made This My Life’s Work
After fixing my own marriage, I took everything I’d learned and turned it into a proven process for other men.
I drew from my background in theology and psychology and became a:
✅ Certified No More Mr. Nice Guy Coach
✅ Certified in Internal Family Systems (IFS)
✅ Certified in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
✅ Certified in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
And I started working with founders, executives, and entrepreneurs—men who had achieved everything except the strong, thriving marriage they wanted.
This work changes lives.
And it can change yours too.
Your Next Step: Learn to Lead Yourself
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Why does this happen?
A guy gets a divorce and—BAM—he starts living the life he always wanted. I know I did. I traveled and went on adventures all over the world. I wrote a screenplay, worked overseas, and got busy living.
But I was codependent AF before all that, and I’m not ashamed to admit my codependency was part of why my first marriage ended.
Years later, I married the love of my life. It was amazing—so different, and the chemistry was WILD. Then the honeymoon phase ended. One night during an argument, she said, “You know you’re codependent, right?”
DAMN IT—she nailed it, and I wanted to flip a table. That was 15 years ago. We’re still married, and our life is better than ever. Why? Because I stopped making her my emotional center. I stopped trying to figure out what I thought she wanted me to do. I pursued my purpose and prioritized my emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
I pursued her, but I didn’t try to fix her or her world. I led her, but dropped the clingy BS. I made this my life’s work.
I drew on my background in theology and psychology to help other men fix their codependency. I became a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy Coach, and added certifications in Internal Family Systems, Narcissistic Abuse, and CBT.
Again, I pursued what lights me up instead of trying to guess what she wanted me to do.
Does that sound like you? Do you make her your emotional center? Are you addicted to her approval and end up in two- or three-hour fights where she says you’re the problem—and that she’d love you properly if only you fixed yourself?
If that’s you, brother, you’ve got a long road ahead, and the only way forward is to heal your codependency and Nice Guy Syndrome.
For over a decade, I’ve helped founders, executives, and entrepreneurs all over the English-speaking world heal their codependency and fix their marriages. This can work for you, too. Comment YES and I’ll send you a free 10-page PDF outlining a proven three-part plan to do the same.
Stop making your wife your counterfeit God. Learn to lead yourself, and then lead her.
