The Secure Man
An ongoing men’s group for husbands who are done abandoning themselves while trying to keep their marriage alive.
You’ve abandoned yourself trying to win over a woman who is emotionally chaotic and won’t take responsibility for her actions.
You’ve had a long habit of dropping everything you’re doing when she’s dysregulated or emotionally chaotic. You’ve cancelled your plans more times than you can count to deal with her latest crisis.
Then you try to get ahead of it by fixing problems she never asked you to fix.
You can tell by the sound of her steps or the tone of her voice what’s coming next, and you live on edge trying to manage her emotions and expectations.
This is for men who are already in it.
Your wife has asked for a separation, filed for divorce, or crossed a line you can’t ignore.
This is a weekly, ongoing men’s group for capable men who are done with anxious attachment and codependency.
You tried to manage her emotions so she would choose you. It backfired. This is where you stop.
This isn’t therapy. This isn’t a feel-good support group. This is where men learn how to be men among men.
This is a space where you’ll finally:
Stop making her your emotional center and start standing on your own two feet.
2. Heal the root of your anxious attachment and codependency.
3. Regain your identity outside of her moods, chaos, or coldness.
4. Set boundaries without guilt and lead without fear.
5. Stop parenting her and start pursuing your wife performance or people-pleasing.
This isn’t therapy. This is a weekly workshop with brotherhood and accountability.
Every week, you’ll get practical teaching and a powerful space to share your story—and hear other men share theirs. That’s where the healing happens. That’s where you stop performing for her approval and start living for your purpose.
How It Works
Weekly Live Group Calls
Each week we’ll meet in a structured format: 15–20 minutes of targeted teaching and 40+ minutes of powerful group work.
Real Brotherhood
You’ll share your story and hear other men share theirs. You’ll discover you’re not alone—and that’s where the healing starts.Practical, Real-World Tools
No fluff. You’ll learn how to show up as the man at home that you already are at work.A Proven Process
For over a decade, I’ve been helping men heal their inner child and create the conditions to save their marriage and lead their life. This isn’t theory. It’s tested and it works.
What makes this different?
Most men try to fix their marriage by trying harder.
They people-please. They over-communicate. They go to therapy to prove they’re “doing the work.”
None of that changes anything, because the problem isn’t the marriage.
The problem is that you’re still organizing your life around her approval.
Until you stop doing this for her and start dealing with yourself, nothing actually changes.
This is for you if…
You’re constantly second-guessing yourself at home.
You walk on eggshells and apologize just to keep the peace.
You’ve lost track of who you are outside of her moods and demands.
You know being the Nice Guy isn’t working anymore.
What You’ll Achieve
You learn how to be yourself again instead of constantly adjusting to her mood.
You learn how to set boundaries and actually hold them without guilt or over-explaining.
You finally break the anxious attachment and codependent patterns that keep pulling you back in.
You do this alongside the men who stay, do the work, and don’t disappear when it gets uncomfortable.
If you’re done…
…being anxiously attached.
…being codependent.
…being the “good guy” who feels hollow inside.
…making her your emotional center.
…then click below and join The Secure Man Group today.
Start Today
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“I feel 1000lbs lighter after our talk today. Thank you!”
“Every interaction with Ron, I come away lighter, more centered, and with an improved outlook on life”
“Ron, why are our session so on point? WTF, minde-reading sorcerer. Much appreciated, Amigo. ”
✺ Frequently asked questions ✺
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You don’t feel good enough as you are.
You need her approval to feel okay about yourself.
When you don’t get it, you obsess, lose sleep, and shove your own needs so far on the back burner that you never reach your real potential.
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The biggest issue I see men face (besides codependency) is isolation—which feeds codependency. Most men are alone, so they look to a woman to meet all their needs.
You’ll find more healing and freedom in hearing from other men who are going through the same thing.
My 1:1 availability is very limited and currently on a waitlist. Click here to get added.
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Once a week. You can choose between two time slots:
Tuesday at 6am PST / 9am EST
Thursday at 11am PST / 2pm EST
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Each call runs up to two hours. I’ll start with a focused teaching, then open the floor for questions and group discussion.
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All questions and answers from the calls are recorded, so you can go back and listen on your own time.
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Yes. When you join, you become part of a live community of men just like you. Many of my clients have built lasting friendships here—and some have even gone on to start businesses together.
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Yes—if you put in the work and push past that universal inner voice saying, “I’m so special, I can’t change.” Everyone buys into that lie at some point. That’s the only thing that will stop you.
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Once you join, it’s your responsibility to show up, do the work between calls, and take ownership of your results. So no, there are NO refunds.
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It’s an on-going, weekly rhythm. If you need to stop give me a 30 days notice and I’ll cancel your payments.
Weekly Live Calls
Once a week. You can choose between two time slots:
Tuesday at 6am PST / 9am EST
Thursday at 11am PST / 2pm E
Coaching From Ron
Direct access to Ron for coaching, you’ll never be passed off to an underling coach who’s never experienced what you’re going through.
Complete Curriculum
Step-by-step curriculum that walks you through exactly what you need to understand and to in order to be completely free from Codependency, Anxious Attachment, and Nice Guy Syndrome.
Q&A for Total Clarity
The meeting never ends until ALL calls have been answered. You will never get off a call until you’re completely sure what you need to be doing to lead yourself and your wife.
Access to Recordings
All lessons and Q&A are recorded and saved behind a password protected curriculum platform, you’ll have access to the recordings, and homework for life.
Self Mastery
in under 90 days, you’ll learn to lead yourself, walk with more confidence, and start living a life you’re proud of- ensuring that you stop looking to her for approval.
