Why She Lost Respect for You (And How to Get it Back in 30 -Days)
Ever feel like your wife (or girlfriend) is reading from the same script as every other woman?
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a client say:
👉 “My woman told me she loves me, but is not IN LOVE WITH ME anymore.”
And I already know what’s coming next.
It’s almost like they all saw the same movie or read the same book.
But here’s the hard truth—you could have predicted this.
She’s been telling you things for a while—but you dismissed them.
You told yourself she was being dramatic.
You decided she was trying to control you.
You ignored what she was really saying because you didn’t want to face it.
At the very least? You didn’t take her words seriously.
And now? She doesn’t take you seriously either.
You Can’t Flip a Switch and Make Her Love You Again
A lot of men make this mistake:
They wait too long to listen, and by the time they realize something’s wrong, they try to fix it overnight.
But it doesn’t work that way.
The erosion was slow—so the rebuild will be slow.
The loss of respect happened over time—so earning it back takes time.
You can’t win her over with grand gestures if they aren’t backed by consistent action.
Because if your big apology or big promise is followed by not keeping your word—you’re doomed.
And deep down? She knows that.
The Real Problem: You Don’t Follow Through on Your Word to Yourself
This is where most men get stuck.
You’re not just losing her respect—you’re losing your own.
Think about it.
How many times have you said you’d start working out… and didn’t?
How many times have you told yourself you’d quit that bad habit… but still do it?
How many times have you promised yourself to set a boundary… and backed down instead?
No one can love and respect you unless you love and respect yourself first.
That’s how you fix:
✅ Your anxious attachment
✅ Your codependency
✅ Your self-sabotaging patterns that are ruining your marriage
That’s how you prevent divorce in the first place.
How to Actually Fix This (Slowly, But Surely)
The answer isn’t fixing her.
It’s leading yourself.
✔ Live from your purpose.
✔ Face reality with maturity.
✔ Stop enabling and fixing.
✔ Hold your boundaries (without fear of losing her).
This isn’t about controlling her. It’s about mastering yourself. Stay consistent with yourself for 30-days and your relationship will change.
Because the moment she feels your inner strength, she’ll naturally trust you again.
Are You Ready to Lead?
For over a decade, I’ve helped founders, entrepreneurs, and business owners fix their side of the street so they can rescue their marriages.
If you’re struggling with Nice Guy Syndrome, codependency, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment, this is for you.
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Did they all see the same movie?
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a client say, “My woman told me this.” It’s like they all got it from the same book or movie.
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Okay—first of all, you probably could have predicted this in some ways. She’s been telling you things that you might have dismissed as her being dramatic or controlling. In other words, you did not take her words seriously.
At the very least, you discounted what she said.
Now, here’s the thing: you can’t just flip a switch and get her to love you again. This was a slow erosion, and it will be a slow rebuild. Here’s the truth: if you don’t follow through on your word to YOURSELF first, how on earth can she respect you? If your grand gestures to win her over are followed by not keeping your word, you’re doomed.
No one can love and respect you unless you love and respect yourself, brother. That’s how you fix your anxious attachment and codependency. That’s how you prevent divorce in the first place. You have to live and lead from your purpose and from a place where you maturely face reality and let go of the enabling or fixing you tried to do for her in the past. Again, this is a slow process.
For over a decade, I’ve been helping founders, entrepreneurs, and business owners fix their side of the street so they can rescue their marriages. If you’re a Nice Guy, codependent, people-pleasing, or anxiously attached, you need this.
