Healing Codependency, Anxious Attachment, and Nice Guy Syndrome: How I Turned It All Around
From the outside, you might see a happy, thriving marriage today—and you’d be right.
We are happy. We are thriving. And we’re loving the hell out of our lives together.
But it wasn’t always this way.
Not even close.
Healing codependency, anxious attachment, and Nice Guy Syndrome didn’t just happen. It took facing deep wounds, relentless commitment, and a hell of a lot of uncomfortable work.
Let me pull back the curtain.
Our Story: From Broken Beginnings to Unshakable Connection
When my wife and I first got together, the odds were stacked against us.
She was a single mom to a two-year-old.
I was recently divorced and came from a long, messy lineage of broken marriages.
I also inherited something else: Nice Guy Syndrome.
I grew up surrounded by men who were terrified of abandonment. Men who made women the center of their emotional universe—and, ironically, were the same men who later abandoned their families.
Dysfunction was the default.
In the beginning of our marriage, everything seemed great:
✅ Strong connection
✅ Shared dreams
✅ Lots of love and support
But life eventually hit hard—money stress, unhealed childhood trauma, my drinking, and a whirlwind of anxious and avoidant attachment styles collided.
At our worst, we weren’t two adults building a life together.
We were two wounded inner children trapped in survival mode.
The Wake-Up Call That Changed Everything
About 17 years ago, my wife said something that changed my life:
"You're codependent."
At first, I wanted to deny it. Fight it.
But deep down, I knew she was right.
If I wanted a real marriage—not just a survival arrangement—I had to face the uncomfortable truth about myself.
✔️ I had to confront my Nice Guy behaviors.
✔️ I had to address my anxious attachment.
✔️ I had to stop making her my emotional center.
✔️ I had to finally grow up emotionally and spiritually.
It wasn’t easy. It wasn’t quick.
But it saved our marriage—and saved me.
Healing Required Action Over Comfort (Every Single Day)
Real healing didn’t come from hoping things would get better.
It came from ACTION:
Owning my side of the street instead of blaming her
Letting her own her process without trying to fix or control it
Rebuilding my identity around purpose, not people-pleasing
Leading from a place of security instead of anxiety
That’s why today, when people ask how we’re doing so well, I don’t say we "got lucky."
I say, we fought for this.
Helping Other Men Do the Same
For over a decade, I’ve dedicated my life to helping other men—just like you—do this deep work.
Entrepreneurs.
Founders.
Business owners.
High-achievers with success at work but chaos at home.
Men who realized that without healing their codependency, anxious attachment, and Nice Guy Syndrome, no amount of money, muscle, or milestones would save their marriages—or their souls.
And brother, here's the truth: you don’t have to stay stuck.
You can heal. You can lead. You can love again—with strength, clarity, and God-given purpose.
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You Were Made for More
You weren’t made to be stuck in cycles of anxious attachment, people-pleasing, or emotional survival.
You were made to lead—with strength, with grace, and with unshakable clarity.
This is what it’s all about. 🫡
And it starts with you.
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Healing codependency, anxious attachment, and Nice Guy Syndrome.
We look happy in this video—and the truth is, we are. We’re doing better than ever in our marriage and loving the hell out of our lives.
But it wasn’t always like this. When we started out, the odds were stacked against us. She was a single mom with a two-year-old. I was divorced and came from a family where divorce was the norm.
I also come from a long line of Nice Guys—men so afraid of abandonment they made women their emotional center. The irony? Those same men were the ones who abandoned their kids and ran off with someone new. Dysfunction was the default.
In the early days of our marriage, things felt great. We were rooting each other on, the connection was strong, and it felt like a fresh start.
Then real life hit—money stress, unresolved childhood trauma, my drinking, and a whirlwind of anxious and avoidant attachment. We were two adults stuck in wounded inner child energy.
Everything changed about 17 years ago when she called me out for being codependent. Thank God she did. That wake-up call showed me how fragile everything was. If I wanted a healthy marriage, I had to face it all. Codependency, Nice Guy Syndrome, anxious attachment—it was just the tip of the iceberg.
It was hard work, but I never stopped. It meant owning my side of the street and letting her handle hers. It meant action over comfort, every single time.
For over a decade, I’ve helped men do the same—heal their wounds and lead their marriages with strength.
I’ve worked with men from LA to NYC, London to Sydney. Entrepreneurs, business owners, founders. If you want to see the exact method I’ve used for over 10 years, dm me NOW on IG and I’ll send you the free 9-page PDF that outlines the whole thing.
