Fixing Codependency and Anxious Attachment So You Can Save Your Marriage
You might be thinking:
"I wish she could see how much I nurture her. Why can’t she see everything I’ve done for her?"
Brother, I get it.
I lived it—and every day I hear clients say the exact same thing.
Here’s What’s Really Going On
You had an emotionally unavailable mother.
She had a distant, detached father.
And without even realizing it, you two fell into one of the oldest, most painful cycles:
The Codependency Trap.
Some call it “anxious and avoidant attachment styles.”
Cute theory.
But let’s be real: no one chooses to compulsively cling… or run.
It’s survival mode.
And if you don’t heal it, it will wreck your marriage.
Why She’s Pulling Away (It’s Not What You Think)
You made her your emotional center.
Her moods control your moods.
Her validation becomes your lifeline.
Her attention becomes your oxygen.
And when you do that?
She’s forced into maternal energy.
She doesn’t want to mother you, brother.
But when you constantly need her love, reassurance, and approval, she doesn’t have a choice.
If she already had strong maternal instincts (and most women do)?
It gets even worse.
She starts treating you like a son—not a husband.
And once that happens?
Attraction, intimacy, and connection die a slow death.
It’s Not Just Her. It’s Enmeshment.
This is called emotional enmeshment.
It’s not love.
It’s not partnership.
It’s survival-based codependency dressed up as "devotion."
If you’re hearing her say:
“I feel smothered.”
“I need space.”
“I love you, but I’m not IN love with you.”
Brother, it’s already bad.
And if she’s saying she feels smothered?
It’s way worse than she’s letting on.
The Real Solution (Not More Pleasing, Not More Pleading)
You don’t fix this by working harder.
You fix this by becoming whole.
Here’s how:
✔️ Heal the childhood wounds.
Face and process the hurt you picked up from unavailable parents.
✔️ Forgive your parents.
Not for their sake—for yours.
Freedom is found through forgiveness.
✔️ Rescue your inner child.
Stop asking your wife to do what your parents couldn’t. That’s not her job.
✔️ Stand on your own two feet.
Your wife’s facial expressions should not determine your self-worth.
✔️ Set healthy boundaries.
Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re the path to true intimacy.
You Already Have What It Takes
You’re a powerhouse at work.
You run a successful business.
You handle stress, deals, deadlines, and leadership.
You already know how to be a man.
It’s time to bring that leadership and strength home—without needing her approval to validate it.
You Can Heal This
Since 2015, I’ve helped founders, entrepreneurs, and business owners heal from:
Codependency
Anxious Attachment
Nice Guy Syndrome
P0rn addiction
Alcohol dependency
People-pleasing
This isn’t theory.
It’s the real path that saved my marriage—and hundreds of others.
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You can radically change your life—and your marriage.
But you have to choose it.
Stop Waiting. Start Leading.
She’s been waiting for you to show up—not the boy who needs her approval.
The man who leads with strength, integrity, and faith.
Let’s get after it, brother.
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I bet you’re thinking…
I wish!
Can’t she see how much I nurture her?! Why can’t she see everything I’ve done for her?!
I was there—and I hear my clients say the same thing every day.
Here’s the gist: You had an emotionally unavailable mother.
She had a distant father.
And the two of you got stuck in the classic cycle of codependency.
Another way we hear it described is the anxious and avoidant “styles.”
That’s a fun idea—as if anyone chooses to either cling or run compulsively.
Look, there are a million reasons and ways we end up in codependent marriages.
But you cannot keep making her your emotional center.
That always pushes her into maternal energy.
And if she already has a strong maternal instinct? It gets worse.
Your wife doesn’t want that.
She doesn’t want a husband she treats like a son.
But that’s what happens when you constantly need her validation, love, and attention.
That’s enmeshment.
You’ve got to become whole.
Heal the wounds of the past.
Forgive your parents.
Rescue your inner child.
You’re already confident at work.
Your business proves you know how to be a man.
You don’t need her facial expressions to validate it.
If she’s pushing you away, she’s feeling smothered.
If she’s saying she’s smothered? It’s way worse than she’s letting on.
Brother, there’s a way out.
You can rewire your brain and nervous system.
Heal your codependency.
Learn to stand on your own. Set boundaries.
Since 2015, I’ve been helping founders, entrepreneurs, and business owners heal this stuff:
Codependency. Anxious attachment. Nice Guy syndrome.
Plus—getting free from p0rn, getting sober, and way more.
You can lead your marriage.
Your wife’s been waiting for you to show up, brother.
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